I was once told I wasn’t desirable because I was a “good girl.”

I could have been sad. I could have let his words put me into a depression. But I didn’t.



I didn’t allow his words to control my state of being. Nor was I going to fault him for his definition of manhood that came from the conditioning of a sinful society. The world tells him the more women he has sex with, the manlier he becomes.

This experience actually showed me the amount of growth I’ve had since becoming a woman. In my younger years, something like this would have devastated me. But God has been so faithful to me, revealing my worth to me and telling me exactly who I am.

This guy made me realize that it is perfectly ok for me to be a “good girl” or to be perceived as one. It’s ok if guys find me less attractive because I choose not to put out. It’s ok that I don’t want to sexualize the beautifully shaped body that God placed my soul in.

It’s ok that I don’t have to feel that my body is the only tool I have to keep a “man” around.

This guy opened my eyes to the fact that I want a man who understands my worth. I do not desire a boy who wants to use parts of who I am to validate his ego.

Because I am secure in who God is making me to be, I don’t have to entertain play-play relationships with boys.

And it is such a blessing when boys find you unattractive or don’t want to pursue you because you are a “good girl.” It is proof that the God in you is evidently showing through you. Your character as a Godly woman makes him uncomfortable, because your light shines in his darkness.

It’s ok to be a good girl because you are a daughter of a powerful and holy King. You are a daughter of a good King. You are producing fruit that is desired by certain people.

Don’t be ashamed of being the “good girl” boys don’t want because a real man will find you.

Don't worry if men don't want to start a relationship with you because they think your a "good girl." Those types of men are not who God has for you.

Author: Sanley Marie

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4 thoughts on “It’s Ok To Be The Good Girl Guys Don’t Want

  1. Thank you for this. This post speaks a huge truth that I needed.

    Posted on March 2, 2017 at 5:53 PM
  2. Sister, I love and appreciate your work. Sometimes we feel the tug to read the bible and study the word but dont know exactly where to start. I have a few of your guides and they have helped me to focus and stay on point.



    Posted on April 4, 2017 at 7:34 AM
  3. Girl,

    Posted on April 16, 2017 at 11:15 AM
  4. Word!!! Enough Said! *drops mic*

    Posted on December 28, 2017 at 12:55 PM