I was once told I wasn’t desirable because I was a “good girl.”
I could have been sad. I could have let his words put me into a depression. But I didn’t.
I didn’t allow his words to control my state of being. Nor was I going to fault him for his definition of manhood that came from the conditioning of a sinful society. The world tells him the more women he has sex with, the manlier he becomes.
This experience actually showed me the amount of growth I’ve had since becoming a woman. In my younger years, something like this would have devastated me. But God has been so faithful to me, revealing my worth to me and telling me exactly who I am.
This guy made me realize that it is perfectly ok for me to be a “good girl” or to be perceived as one. It’s ok if guys find me less attractive because I choose not to put out. It’s ok that I don’t want to sexualize the beautifully shaped body that God placed my soul in.
It’s ok that I don’t have to feel that my body is the only tool I have to keep a “man” around.
This guy opened my eyes to the fact that I want a man who understands my worth. I do not desire a boy who wants to use parts of who I am to validate his ego.
Because I am secure in who God is making me to be, I don’t have to entertain play-play relationships with boys.
And it is such a blessing when boys find you unattractive or don’t want to pursue you because you are a “good girl.” It is proof that the God in you is evidently showing through you. Your character as a Godly woman makes him uncomfortable, because your light shines in his darkness.
It’s ok to be a good girl because you are a daughter of a powerful and holy King. You are a daughter of a good King. You are producing fruit that is desired by certain people.
Don’t be ashamed of being the “good girl” boys don’t want because a real man will find you.